Pool Time !!

This Sunday Aryan had loads of fun in his small pool. Here is a glimpse..

If you can give your son or daughter only one gift, let it be enthusiasm.

8 things about me...

Hmm.. SM has Tagged me ..So I need to say 8 things about me thats not known to you..
Fun Game !!

1. I wanted to be doctor since childhood and I still want too.. :D Though I know this will always remain a dream.
2. I am too too short tempered , which is the reason of all my problems in life.
3. I love soft music , Jagit singh is my favourite.
4. Sometimes I like movies which turn out to be real flops.. like in my early teens I liked movies called "Dil Ka Kya Kasoor" and "Deewana"..:D
5. I would love to dress up like Cindrella once in my life.
6. I always wanted to sing and dance well , but I never could.
7. I was soooooo punchual till college that my friends used to hate me for that. I would yell at them if they were late by 5 mins and they would always be.. :) Once I made them all wait for 45 mins in a restaurant to give them a lession. Now I can not manage to be that that punchual though I still want to.
8. I believe that my intution never drives me wrong , and I sometimes develop strong likes and dislikes based on that , but I guess thats not justified behaviour.

Hey ...I did it ..in just 5 mins !! And I really enjoyed doing this.
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The much awaited milestone !

"Finally !!" is what was on my mind when he moved ahead. Aryan(Aru) was trying to crawl since long and every single day my husband would estimate about in how many days will he be able to crawl and my MIL and I would thumbs up to what he says.

But all in vain. None of the estimates worked and he could only try and try and try.I lost hopes for his crawling and thought he will probably walk directly as I did.Sometimes when people asked me , "Did he crawl?" , I would joke that Aru has decided to swim and fly ..and crawling is not something he wants. Quite recently though , just about a week back , he started moving in reverse gear ,in sitting postion itself.

Now that he started crawling ..we have started estimating the time for his walking. I know he will prove us wrong again.I think better we should enjoy looking at him , crawling on his tummy using his hands and mastering the skill. And let him enjoy the same too for quite some time :-)

Today I know ,one fine day he will decide to walk too and its better to give him, his own time.

How do they know LOVE !!

Sunday evening at about 4 PM , my SIL and her family returned home after spending 5 days vacation with us. Soon after they left , Aryan slept.He was too tired after having loads of fun with the kids and slept for about 4 hours.

When he woke up , he realized that his Bua , Phupha ji and the two bro's (9 and 5 years old) are not yet back. He realized that probably they are gone.He realized that it was another usual evening for others, with everyone watching TV and chatting. He became very cranky and clinged to me hard and wanted all our attention. We switched off the TV and did all what we could to make him happy. But he won't let go. He wanted everyone else to just in front of him , till he slept that night.Probably he felt lonely or insecure.

It was so amazing to realize that a 10 months old baby could understand love and attention so well.When his 9 year old bro gave a peck on his cheek , he smiled back and he called me(in his own language ,the typical 'ayeee') to tell the same. He looked as if he felt blessed. When my SIL holded him in her arms , he rubbed his cheeks to hers to show his love.These were the people he has not met before , atleast not in recent past. Now they are gone and he misses them.

Love, for sure needs no words.

Women on Top

In one of my initial post , I debated on the fact that women have equal brains as men do , though they might develop differently. In continuation with that , here is some more , to give a thought.

A leading global media and entertainment company , recently conducted a study and found that they have 50 % of women population among their total employees around the world.But what was more striking to them was that the men : women ratio was significantly low at the top level. They did a study on the "Why" and conducted discussions and meeting with the women on top in different companies.

After which they conducted an only women leadership program , and some of the aspiring women from their organization were invited to attend the same from around the world. One of my collegues (at a senior level) got the chance to attend the same and here is what she shared.

Negotiate : We, the women are poor at negotiating for ourselves. While negotiating for a promotion or a hike,we give up far more easily than men , probably because we have different priorties and for a majority of us job is secondary.

Here are some tips while you negotiate.A) Try not to be defensive. The other guy would always want you to get defensive. But try not to be. Speak less and let the other person talk more. When you feel the need to be defensive , ask a question.Ask more questions and let him find answers to the questions(which he is not prepared to answer).B)Do not get flattered. They will try to faltter you telling you that you did a great job and no one can do it better. (So you basically continue doing the same).C)Tell them their gain. How do they benifit from you. D) If you cannot get through , negotiate to find a midway , where both are benifited.E) Know your market value and negotiate on that. Tell them I want to stay with you and this is what I will get if I go elsewhere.

Heads Up : Women normally follow a "Heads down approach". This also comes from their basic nature. A woman manager would utlize most of her time and energy at getting the best from her team. we should get more balanced and look straight. Guys spend quality time to sell themselves.They know what they have done and what is the impact , while women will just keep doing the due , thinking it as a part of their job.So strike a balance and invest time in selling yourself.

Network Well : Network yourself well. There are a few areas to that. List down the people who a)Support you b)Sponser you.Mind that, your competitors cannot be your sponsors.

Another known reason and I personally feel the most important reason is most women choose to take a break to nurture their families and they head start after a long gap. So the guys are far ahead till that time. So even if you think you are spending too much on getting a support system for your kids and not able to earn anything from your work , its worth it in longer run.

Aah ! Those Silky Hair !!

"Gone are the times when I would brush my hand in HIS silky soft Hair !!." This is the statement my husband uses as he misses Aryan's Hair.
Now , as new hair are budding over his head , even he himself does not want to touch his head. I often brush his hand over his head and he would quickly drag it away ..:)

Our Little Darling's Little Confusions :)

Our bed is in a corner of the room.To ensure Aryan's safety atleast from two sides , we make him sleep ,next to the wall.
So the only choice he has is to cuddle with me me before he sleeps. Yesterday ,we thought of making him sleep in the center (between his mumma and papa).Though there was no reason ,just like that.
Now my little sweetheart was so confused to choose between mumma and papa. He did not want to offend either. So he was shuttling between us.He would face and cuddle with mumma for 2 seconds and then with papa for 2 seconds.
Both of us felt so blessed that moment.Our 10 months baby was showing us how much he loves both of us and how he is unable to decide his preference. This shuttling went on for 10 minutes , when I finally decided that , he has to be next to his wall , if he has to sleep :-)